It is almost impossible to remember of all the lessons that you read about relating to dating.
Here are three simple things to remember that will help any first date go smoothly.
BY ANDRE JACKSON
JULY 28, 2020
1. Don't Forget Where You Are
You aren't at home with the boys, or in the locker room, so remember where you are and who you are with.
One of the most common things is for guys to start trash talking, chewing with their mouth open, or eating their meal like a dog attacking the thanksgiving leftovers. Relax, you have all night.
Address your date, put your knife and fork down in between bites, and remember what who are sitting across from. Afterall, would you like to be with some stranger that is yelling, or spitting up pieces of their meal trying to get their words out?
2. You Have Two Wingmen On The Sides Of Your Head
Listening is probably the easiest thing you can do to make yourself seem like that dream guy she hoped you would be.
"He is funny, smart, and I felt like he knew exactly the right questions to ask"
If a girl has never said this to her friends when speaking about you, then you are not doing your job. The first dates are the hardest because you don't know what to talk about.
Luckily your ears are the perfect way to steer the conversation. The easiest way to build rapport with someone is to start actively listening. When you are listening and paying attention, you can relax and forget about thinking of the next question to ask. With active listening, you will know exactly what to say next.
For example, if you ask your date a basic question like "how do you find the time to (cook, workout, read, etc) in your day", any answer they will give will provide you an easy follow up question. The key is to avoid typical and boring close ended questions that provide yes or no answers. You want your questions to lead to your date telling a story. Then whatever sticks out in the story they tell, will give you a launching point of conversation.
If you have ever been bored in a conversation, it is likely due to the fact that the other person was probably just rambling on about them-self. It is easier to keep the ball in their court so you can just keep the questions coming, and the conversation flowing.
3. Dress The Part
Depending on where you are going, who you are going with, and what you plan was, you need to look the part.
Seriously, how weird would it be to show up to a basketball game with slippers and a beach towel?
That's what it will seem like if you are showing up to a dinner date wearing your jogging shorts and your grass cutting sneakers...
Confidence is key in this department, so here are a couple tips for looking the part:
- Jewelry is appropriate, but this is your first impression, so class is key.
- You need to look like you want to be there, because it will help you be more confident. We are talking about wearing your favourite piece of jewellery, favorite shoes, or that blazer or T that gives you that feel good style.
This is your big night too, don't get it twisted that you are the only one that is showcasing their best selves. It is not what we intend to do, but is often an initial reaction and apart of being human.
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